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A letter to the bathroom bigots:

26 Oct

To all of the people who don’t want me in your bathrooms Roseanne Barr ,  Rob Anders  and all the rest:

The bathroom issue seems to come up somewhere on nearly a daily basis. All of you claim to be well meaning, protecting woman from a possible danger that we could theoretically pose. You say it’s all about safety. Let me tell you a bit about safety.

I have never ever in my life felt safe. Not once that I can bring to mind. This in varying degrees is the reality for nearly all of the trans community (I would never claim to speak for everyone). It is not just physical safety either; I don’t feel economic safety, emotional safety, or social safety.

We have realities you don’t face and don’t seem to understand. In many jurisdictions we can be openly fired from our jobs or, even in the places where we can’t, we are driven out of our jobs or excuses found to fire us.  Housing is uncertain even in places where we have protections. So many times you are living with hostile neighbors, landlords who find excuses not to help you, or in neighborhoods where walking as trans is very dangerous. When we face abuse or homelessness there are huge number of shelters where we are simply not welcome or not safe. We attempt to go to school and face bullying and a curriculum which ignores us or vilifies us.

It all reinforces itself. Many of us end up undereducated, underemployed, living in poverty, with few resources and inadequate supports. Even when we miss those outcomes we still have to deal with the hostile stares if we don’t meet cis standards of proper appearance, or have to pull out an ID with the wrong gender tag on it. We often can’t even share our own past and life experiences without risking someone realizing our trans histories and treating us with scorn or worse.

I want you to think about that bathroom bigot. Imagine a life where the best case scenario is often invisibility and praying a bad outcome doesn’t occur. Imagine never feeling secure. Imagine not even being able to go to the bathroom without risk; an absolutely basic bodily function. Then you tell me that were the ones making people unsafe.

Things I want…

7 Jul

This post is dedicated to all the people who make me need to do a list like this: The Christian Right, Radfems, LGB who hate the T, Harry Benjamin trans folk, Transexxual seperatists, trans folk who think there is a “right” way to be trans, Mens Rights people, trans fanciers, the beauty industry, insensitive/sensationalistic journalists, pandering politicians, gatekeeping doctors, judgemental people, police, the legal system, and all the other haters and exploiters.

Here are the things I really badly want in life but will probably never have:

1.  To be viewed as a sexually desirable human being without it being because of a fetish.

2. To not be able to add 30 more groups to this list with just 2 minutes of thinking..

3. To not have to feel hate in my heart towards the above because hate makes me sick.

4. To be able to go 24 hours without fear or shame.

5. To have been able to adopt a child, because I had so much love to give and would have been a great Mom.

6. To go one week without seeing a story containing some outrage against my community

7. To not be called “brave” because being brave isn’t actually necessary for me to live.

8. To not have to just accept certain humiliations because there is nothing I can do about them.

9.  To not have to explain my motivations for being who I am inside.

10. To be able to see myself as beautiful.

11. To not have to decide whether to be out or to be safe.

12. And most of all: To be able to be happy, for an extended period of time without you people above and those like you taking it all away in one cruel heartbeat.

Bill C-279

5 Jun

The trans rights bill federally in Canada is up for a vote tommorow. The bill may be a close vote, New Democrats, Liberals and the green party are in support and even some conservatives are supporting it.

What can you do?

Call your local conservative MPs. Tell them to support the bill. Even a few changing to yes would maybe get trans people long deserved federal protections. Activism can work, we are on the edge of trans human rights protections in Ontario. We can do it federally.

Make that call! If you aren’t Canadian tell your Candian friends to make that call. Let’s make this happen!